what comes
so i just received this comment on one of my posts (hillary clinton and the women abandoning women syndrome). and even though i know who wrote it, not because the person left their name, but because i know how to track that shit on the internet, i’m not gonna NAME who wrote it, because a) it hurts me that they felt like shooting from an anonymous position, and b) homey don’t go that way…anyways, here is what the person said:
“Jesus fucking Christ when did you get so self-indulgent? when I first read “Chronology of Water” I was blown away by the way you had turned these events into fucking art, into something that redefined tragedy, hurt, woman, and gestured brilliantly towards something that might get us beyond this paradigm. But now it’s all about fucking self-pity. When did you start playing the victim?”
and i’m wondering, how this person gets the idea that i’m carving out a victim position from what i’ve said. the things that have happened to me have in no way victimized me, and i’ve had some hum dinger hard knocks.
on the contrary, i have chosen the path of an empowered person.
oh and i also put my name on things i say and think, warts and all.
and i retain the right to articulate. no matter what. and i’ve never asked for anyone’s pity a day in my life.
when i speak of the “abandoning women” syndrome, i’m talking about a subject position in our culture that ALL women face sooner or later, whether they admit it or not. and when i use an “i” to tell that story, it’s a stand in. i say “i” so the topic can move into discourse, not so anyone can feel pity or go boo hoo.
i would have thought that was obvious.
oh and by the way, thanks for all the good will. you rock.
and about my story “chronology of water”? well, maybe you should read it again.
love lidia
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